What is Bullying?
Bullying is when people repeatedly and intentionally use words or actions against someone or a group of people to cause distress and risk to their wellbeing.
Read more about what it is, what is considered bullying behaviour and how people are affected by it here- https://www.humanrights.gov.au/what-bullying-violence-harassment-and-bullying-fact-sheet
People who have been or are being bullied feel like victims. Therefore, they often think they have the problem.
Bullying support usually comes in the form of coping skills.
In reality it is the bully who has the problem but they won’t be the one looking for bullying therapy sessions.
So What is the Answer?
The victim’s perception usually changes when they realise that it is the bully who has issues. This is because of the Bullies past and how they have learnt to cope in the world. Often they will feel sorry for the bully, forgive them and move on.
Outcomes vary depending on each individual case and type of support or therapy received.
The technique I use is FasterEFT/Eutaptics and it is very effective.
There are Tips on How to Help a Child Overcome Bullying here https://bit.ly/2GdF4T8
A Positive Outcome
I recently worked with a 14 year old student who was bullied at school. Her Mum messaged me after the session and said “I’m totally shocked at some of the things the nasty girls have said” She said her daughter smiled and said “I can’t believe how she’s sitting in her house wasting all her time sending nasty messages to my friends. I’m glad I’ve not let it bother me anymore and I’m enjoying myself. And my friends just laugh at it all.” Her Mum told me “She’s a changed person” “To be honest, I was surprised how quick beliefs can change in someone so young.
Di, Thank you so much.
Over the years my daughter has always put too much pressure on herself to be perfect at everything. As a result, this has affected her schooling. Stressing about naplan for a year before she was due to do it is a great example. Many a time the teacher has had to pull her aside and explain that she was doing well. Me telling her was not enough. Then high school hit and the pressure went up. Anything less than an A was a fail in her eyes. Add teenage girls into the equation and she started having regular breakdowns at home.
only 1 session with you, she learnt the technique to cope. I was very surprised
by how quickly I saw her confidence change and grow. Now, six months on she has
the maturity of facing issues head-on. Bullying at school has been one of them.
The tools you gave her have seen her face the fear and realise she holds the
power to be happy.
I cannot express how grateful we are to you. Your caring warm nature put her at ease instantly.
I love your work – I would defiantly recommend you to anyone who wants to better themselves. I hope your push to get this practice into schools comes sooner than later.